The author begins the story of her beloved brother in 1993 with the striking observation that, even though they were both grown adults now, the AIDS virus has shrunk her brother\u2019s body, leaving him \u201clost in the folds of an over-washed, white hospital gown.\u201d When they were children in 1969, Olaf (as Boulanger lovingly called him) was a vivacious performer and source of joy in their household in Utica, New York. His departure for college\u2014though the school was a mere 30-minute drive away\u2014felt like an epic tragedy to Boulanger and her parents. By the mid-1980s, Boulanger had become a teacher with two children and Olaf had gone on to live in Chicago and Atlanta with his beloved partner, Teddy\u2014it was during a visit that Teddy first spoke of trouble with his stomach. Suddenly, years of news reports and Olaf\u2019s own vague references to something happening among his friends became disturbingly real to the author as Teddy\u2019s illness progressed rapidly to full-blown AIDS. (\u201cIt could be just pneumonia,\u201d Boulanger says to her brother about his lover, desperately trying to prolong the inevitable affirmation that AIDS had come into their family\u2019s lives. \u201cPeople get it all the time.\u201d) Then Boulanger spotted a mulberry-colored spot on her brother\u2019s back that she describes as \u201cgaping\u201d and \u201craw.\u201d In devastating scenes reminiscent of classic AIDS-focused dramas like Tony Kushner\u2019s Angels in America, Boulanger walks readers through her brother\u2019s slow decline and his various hospital stays throughout the early 1990s before his death from the disease.<\/p>\n
With each indelible scene in the memoir\u2019s second half, Boulanger digs into the unsettling mix of horror, love, political complexities, humor, and immense sadness that AIDS created. The imagery she crafts from her memories is raw and immensely powerful\u2014readers will surely feel that they were in the room with her, seeing rows of \u201cashen-faced men with skeletal bodies reclined, their bony knees pointing upward sharply.\u201d Her memoir is overflowing with these tiny details that pack a tremendous emotional punch. Boulanger\u2019s movement through several time periods feels a bit wobbly at first, leaving readers with some basic questions about the family\u2019s history, but by the time she reaches her and Olaf\u2019s adulthood, she is in complete, impressive command of the narrative. So many elements are left simmering quietly in the background, like the rising media interest in AIDS and the subtle, almost imperceptible homophobia that she saw around Olaf. The result is an engrossing, almost suspenseful story, even if readers know how it will end. There is plenty of joy throughout, as well\u2014Boulanger perfectly captures the siblings\u2019 pure excitement for life as young people, and shows how Olaf maintained it, in some ways, until the very end. Her smart epilogue makes a compelling comparison between Covid-19 and AIDS, calling out the dangers of misinformation, isolation, and lack of empathy. Fortunately for readers, Boulanger shows she has plenty of empathy and wisdom to spare.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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