The author compares resilient people to willow or palm trees, simultaneously rooted and flexible, and grief as unexpressed love for something or someone lost. The book goes on to put grief into three categories: physical only (loss of objects), emotional only (loss of opportunities), and physical and emotional (death, divorce). The author reassures readers that \u201cit\u2019s okay to live with grief and to keep living.\u201d Compassion, she says, bridges the gap between oneself and others, and it\u2019s comprised of four components: perspective-taking, sympathy, empathy, and care. Energy is divided into two categories\u2014kinetic (active) and potential (dormant); it affects one\u2019s ability to put the best self forward and engage with the world, the author asserts. She encourages journaling, actively giving thanks, and practicing reflection to make feelings of gratitude more reflexive. The book also presents karma as a \u201cUniversal Law\u201d of cause and effect; its patterns can be healed through prayer, mantras, and blessings, Faulkner says. The work concludes by contrasting \u201clife by design\u201d with \u201clife by default\u201d and encourages readers to live actively and deliberately. Overall, this is a thoughtful book that effectively invites readers to work toward greater self-awareness. The consistent chapter structure, with each involving \u201cWho, What, When, Where, Why, and How\u201d sections, makes the material easy to follow. The language can be convoluted at times (\u201cA person who desires to be resilient, and isn\u2019t willing to do the work, will end up in a constant cycle of chasing resilience, which ultimately undermines any resilience they may have already had, making it the one way resilience can actually fade or fail\u201d); at other moments, it\u2019s oddly stilted (\u201cGrief is most commonly expressed through tears\u201d). That said, Faulkner does offer some empowering lines along the way, such as \u201cWho you choose to become is up to you,\u201d and readers navigating loss will find concepts like \u201cThe Grief-Life Ratio\u201d relatable and reassuring. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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