Freedom, family, and dignity—a moving true story about unwavering brotherly love and fighting for the right to choose your own future
Hugh Flynn’s Something Special Be is a heartfelt, often infuriating memoir that dives headfirst into the complexities of family, disability rights, and the relentless fight for autonomy.
Chronicling Hugh’s battle for conservatorship over his brother Aaron, a man with Down syndrome in his early 50s, the book offers a raw and deeply personal perspective on the systemic challenges faced by individuals with intellectual disabilities—and those who advocate for them.
At its core, this is a story about love, both familial and chosen. Hugh’s bond with Aaron is unwavering, but what truly stands out is the tender and steadfast support from Hugh’s partner Luis. Despite the relatively new nature of their relationship when the legal battle began, Luis steps into the chaos without hesitation. His kindness, humor, and unwavering commitment to both Hugh and Aaron aren’t just touching—they’re a testament to the power of chosen family. Luis doesn’t see Aaron as a burden or an obligation—he sees him as a brother, an equal, and someone worth fighting for. It’s impossible not to root for this trio as they fight for a life of love, independence, and inclusion in California.
Yet, this tale is not without its villains. Hugh’s brother, Jack, lives with Aaron in their mother’s Maryland home and is often dismissive of Aaron’s wishes, while his other brother, Greg, files a counter-suit for conservatorship despite having little connection with Aaron. Their actions seem driven less by genuine care and more by the lure of financial gain—an implication that becomes increasingly evident as the legal battle unfolds. I’ve never seen Greg, but based on his manipulative tactics and ego, I’ll assume he has a pretty punchable face.
One of the book’s most heartbreaking aspects is the way Aaron’s autonomy is repeatedly dismissed—not just by his brothers, but by the legal system itself. Despite Aaron’s clear and consistent desire to live with Hugh and Luis, his voice is often ignored simply because of his disability.
A particularly infuriating detail is Jack and Greg’s refusal to call him by his chosen name, Aaron, instead insist on calling him “Ronnie”—a nickname he abandoned in his 20s. The dismissal of something as fundamental as one’s name highlights the broader societal tendency to infantilize individuals with intellectual disabilities, stripping them of their identity and agency. Each court continuation and each lie from the opposition feels like a gut punch, chipping away at his hope.
For those like myself who are intimately familiar with the intellectual disability community, Hugh’s journey is both relatable and heartbreaking. The red tape, endless legal hurdles, and systemic complacency are all too common. The memoir highlights the broader societal issue of individuals with disabilities being treated as secondary citizens, their voices drowned out by those who claim to know what’s best. But through Hugh’s relentless determination, the narrative becomes a testament to the power of advocacy and unconditional love.
Despite the darkness of family conflict and bureaucratic obstacles, Aaron’s light never dims. His humor, kindness, and fierce determination to make his own choices remind readers of the beauty found in authenticity. It serves as a reminder that individuals with disabilities are not defined by their limitations but by their humanity.
The book’s most powerful lesson comes from Hugh’s reflection: “If you live your life to love, time cannot defeat you.”While on its surface it’s a thoughtful line— underneath is a challenge. A challenge to embrace empathy, advocate for those whose voices are ignored, and live with a heart as open as Aaron’s.
Something Special Be is more than a memoir—it’s a call to action. It challenges readers to confront their own biases, recognize the dignity and worth of every individual, and stand up against a system that too often fails those who need it most. Prepare to laugh, cry, and, yes, occasionally want to throw your book across the room. But most importantly, prepare to be inspired.Luis’s tenderness, Aaron’s unwavering belief in himself, and Hugh’s determination to honor his brother’s wishes prove that, even in the face of cruelty and greed, love can prevail.
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